Wanderlust...

Wanderlust : A strong innate desire to travel about
One of my top top favorite words! Right up there with happenstance.

Sometimes I'm scared I'll never find "home"...
The idea of home is a strange one. Is it where you've lived the longest; Lagos, or where you were born; New York, or where you first discovered who you were; San Francisco, or maybe where you realized you were enough; Florence,  or maybe It's where all the people you love are; Scattered all over the world. All I know is that I'm always longing for some place...

A couple of weeks ago I sent The partner a photo

Him :You look like the girl I fell in love with...

Me: O_o what does that mean? I'm no longer pretty ehn?

Him: No there's this radiance about you, you look happy, happier. Lagos took a lot from you and the stress got to you.

Me : Oh :(

 After the conversation I pondered over he said. I don't want to be happier here, I love the people in Lagos, my family and friends, and I love being in close proximity to them, but here I have easy access to the things that feed my creative energy and make me happy. The stress, the air and Lagos in general is too much for me and leaves me drained mostly.

Someone suggested I would Like Abuja, and I quite like Calabar . The partner says we should run away to Ghana. lol! Maybe I'll always be looking for home, at least I have someone who will wander with me...

Buon' Weekend!
Sabirah

Thursday tidbits

Haven't done one of these in a while!

1. I've been laughing really deeply past couple of days. I just feel good.
2. Yesterday I was on a three hour phone call where i only said "Hello", "Tell me", I love you". Sometimes being there is just listening.
3. I hurt someone today :( unintentionally but then I couldn't lie...
4. I made something delicious today! a complete experiment. I've still got it! whooop and it was diet complaint!
5. I could eat greek salads forever. Noms.
6. I really enjoy and value my time alone.
7. My phone dependency has drastically reduced! I can't believe it. I barely look at it now. it's a great feeling.
8. Do you have a blog? I want to see. show me.
9. God loves me, I believe it. He loves you too. A lot

Thursday tidbits

Hey y'all!!! (I will explain this in a bit)

1) I explored today (aka walked miles in search of an interesting grocery store) and came upon this wonderous(is this a word?spell check thinks not) place. Guess what I bought, Chicken, Catfish and Goatmeat!!
2) I'm happy, this may or may not be related to the above
3) I love being in school it's just... awesome
4) Oh so I said "Hey y'all" because I've acquired a Texan accent from watching GCB. It's such a bad drama filled addictive show. guilty pleasure
5) Cooking has been the only thing keeping me sane these days, I've been writing my recipes and waiting to get my camera so I can share ^_^
6) Do you have a Pinterest? No clue what it is? Read this <--- very good description
7) Well I'm on pinterest, you can see my boards at https://pinterest.com/sabirah0/ I'm obviously obsessed with wedding decor and planning!
8) The weather in California is just odd, hopefully it's nice enough to go to the beach this weekend :)
9) You're awesome.

Buon' weekend a tutti!
Sabirah

How to Flirt while in a Relationship

Because I'm so nice and kind and I love to help people I've decided to share this invaluable information. Ladies you can eat your cake and have (some of) it... Notice I said ladies, guys shooo away... No i'm serious close this page. Ladies where were we? So this invaluable information.... by the way single ladies are very welcome, we are one big estrogenous family- Please don't ask.

OK here is a scenario - You have been dating a lovely person for a while, this person is all that and a bag of gummi worms except of course when said person is hungry or just being a general brat. Anyways you like said person a lot or maybe even love and have eyes only for your boo. Well Sort of...

You're out and about and you spot a hottie and for a second you think "Damn why am I in a relationship?" (It's OK you can confess, I promise I won't tell, you are not a horrible girlfriend) Of course you aren't going to write your name and number on a paper napkin and sultrily slip it to him. Come one even when you were single you didn't have such guts Here is what you do... My friend Khafil thinks I'm uncool, whatever. You're a Loser too.

BAIT and WAIT. Extremely cool right? Yes. You've probably unconsciously done this before... or not

STEP 1: You bait said hottie, however you best know how, I'm rather subtle so a few glances and a small smile, some of you come on strong if it backfires please don't call me, actually if any of this backfires I dont know you You can ask the time, borrow a pen, whatever the situation allows. A few words are allowed like;

"When will this flight ever leave?" - OK this kinda sucks

Not too many words like;

"Wow! you and Adam Levine have the same bone structure, a firm jaw that I find very attractive in a Hot man such as yourself" - Even when you are thinking it, DO NOT SAY THIS.

STEP 2: WAIT. This is the hard part, wait for hottie to take the bait, respond. Chill and do not bait again. I repeat, do not bait again, lose all interest immediately! ABORT! Ok not that serious. After this point if you get a response, you can have a nice chat, refuse to give out your number or whatever and go home to your boo. Fin. Win.

Or he can give you Ela (Non-Nigerian readers this means to be ignored or generally shot-down, mostly the latter) and you still go home to your boo. Win.

Advisory note: Do not use the technique described above without consulting your common sense. The Writer and Editor of La bella imperfezione will not be held liable for any negative consequences such as; Break-ups, Emotional distress and trauma.

Love always,

Sabirah.

Thursday Tidbits

1. Thank God it's Thursday!whoooop. I like thursdays
2. I went to toastmasters today, it was such much fun! I really enjoy the company of my older friends! They are hilarious.
3. Remember the Dr and his wife? The cute couple? Remember I said they were min 50's ish! How wrong, they are both over 60!! amazing bodies, speech, fashion sense, errrrthaaaang. Like wow. Guess how long they've known each other? Since they were born!! they were childhood neighbors :')
4. I made up a word today "Sustainable love" love that lasts. Sure we like (well I like) the dizziness that romance brings but will it all last? What makes love sustainable?
5. I'm writing a post on my teaching experience so far and I keep deleting it because so many people know the school and I don't want to slander but I want to be honest. Does that make sense? What do I do?
6. The diet is going well. I cheated yesterday, with a few spoonfuls of delicious beans and sweet corn, then my stomach hurt a bit, and for most of today it's been hurting. Serves me right! *blowing raspberries at self*
7. I've been seeing pregnant women eeeeverywhere!! They are following me! Pregnant women are haunting me saying look at my fertilized eggs hahahahha :( I wish they would stop :(
8. I can't hold a grudge, it eats at me till I pretty much grovel and beg the person whether or not i'm at fault. This can be a problem. I opened a jar of nutella yesterday to console myself, realised I couldn't eat it cos of the diet, started crying and then caught sight of myself in the mirror and started laughing! I have the ugliest crying face ever.
9. I then tweeted till I fell asleep I am thankful for my boring drama free life

Have a fantastic Friday and weekend!

Love,

Sab.