Merry Christmas, Happy Boxing Day, Happy New Year

Wishing you the best this season and in the new year! I will be back soon with lots to say and post
Spend time with family
Eat.
Go out.
Laugh till you're exhausted
And give.

Love always!
Sabirah

12/14/12

Gosh considering all the promises I made in my last post... let's just start afresh.

Hi my name is Sabirah, I run this blog, I'm a generally happy person with an interest in maaaany different things, pleased to meet you.

How are you?
Me?
I've been well. A lot and nothing has happened in the past 2 weeks.
Let's focus on the happy. My brother is back from school! I love him so much and he drives me crazy at the same time, It's quite amazing! The house is so much more interesting with him. Last night we cozied up on the couch watching revenge (well him watching and me bitching about what a terrible show it is) then he made me indomie noodles -such a good cook- and we giggled till we slept. That's the good life.

Does any one else have spidey senses/sixth sense/third eye ? Mine has been in overdrive whattttt! I'm sensitive to every and anything and my intuition has been on point. Tell me why I decided to ignore my ever so accurate intuition on Tuesday night. As I got ready for an interview, I had the urge to practice cliche interviewer questions like "tell me about yourself" "how much would you like to be paid" etc but then I thought "oh please, that's so old school" no-one has ever asked me that, they don't do it anymore. WRONG. They asked. I froze. (but I still scaled through). Phew! Wish me luck for the last of 3 interviews (with THE BIG DOGS) coming up soon. I'm excited! It's a possible dream job.

I haven't quite caught the Christmas bug, to be honest I never quite catch it, I didn't grow up that way. Nevertheless I'm excited about my friends who are coming home for the holidays all whooping 2 of them! I'm excited for the fun and festivities. There's a Nneka concert I plan on going to (super excited) and I'd like to go to the Bez concert too (but it's quite pricey). I'll also be going to a wedding. I'm so proud of my one wedding a year policy(till all my friends decide to get married around the same time), to be honest I don't see the point of going to a wedding where I'm not close to (or at least know) either the bride or groom.

Today has been awesome, I've been stuffing my face with chocolate cookies, canoodling with the partner, catching up on my shows (Grey's and scandal really) and having the best conversations with my brother and partner (they have such a great relationship it warms my heart, caught them doing math together earlier today :'))
Life is good.
Hmmm what else?
I think that's it.

So what about you? What have you been up to?
Love as always!
Sabirah

This is not a rant.

I promise.
But Nigeria.... ughhhh
I'm going back to my country, and by my country I mean The home of the brave and land of the free, God bless America.
OK not really but still. Lagos and by extension Nigeria is just plain difficult to live in and function, this is not a rant so I won't get into it. If I'm going to continue functioning and by extension (I like this by extension oh) Imma need some structure oooookaaaay?

My "not rant" is over.

How y'all doing? I have some great things in the works and I can't wait to be on my blogging flow again. Nothing much is happening. Just wanted to say hi :) Look out for new posts this coming week and if you like the blog share!

Have an amazing week everyone!
Love always,
Sabirah

Thursday Tidbits

1. Happy thanksgiving to all my "Americans" It was always such a great time for me when I lived in the states.
2. Spent all of yesterday on my mum's friend's organic farm! It was ammmmaazing (pictures up soonish)
3. Related to the above I have been eating the most luscious fruits and veggies all day! I could live like this forever ever ever.
4. I have really few friends in Lagos, it was rather shocking because at a point in my life all my friends were here. Life changes, people move, grow apart etc. and I'm learning to be OK with that.
5. Remember the man I was attracted to in this post ? Meeeh.. I saw him today and figured it out, it was his voice. No longer attracted.
6. Remember the tailor I was hoping on from last post? She was aiit. A tad expensive for me sha, the search continues
7. I went to Covenant University on Tuesday and was really impressed by the campus and facilities. Really nice and beautiful too!
8. My mum and I are such good friends I can't bear the thought of living apart again :(
9. Cant wait for my friend Simi to be in Lagos. Fun times ahead!

Have an amazing weekend y'all :)

Love always,

Sabirah

Thursday Tidbits (late)

Late again, sorry! Nigerian factor.

1. It was our anniversary yesterday! :D
2. Saw Nigerian movie "Hood rush" great acting & story line although the singing was a bit much at times, I really enjoyed it
3. I wish the hood rush theatre was as full as the sky fall one...
4. What are we really going to do about Nigerian men peeing in public, It's so disgusting it's unbelievable, I've started taking my phone out pretending to take a picture. hahaha. Shames them quickly.
5. My mum commended me on my "faith" this morning, saying she needs to learn from me. Really warmed my heart.
6. I'm going to pick up my clothes from a new tailor today, fingers crossed. I hope she is the ONE. the search for a good tailor is reeeeal.
7. Cooking really makes me happy. Finally decided to do something about my lethargy and creative rut. Cook something new every wednesday when my friend Suyi is visiting. 
8. Everyone loved the creamy pasta dish I made. My mum who wasn't interested came back for seconds!
9. Ugh I haaaaate Nigerian salons, the have NO clue bout natural hair, back to doing my hair myself. My mum did some sexy all back for me last night. (whose mum still does their hair? lol :D)

Have an amazing weekend everyone!

Love always,

Sabirah

Girl Talk

(fine, boys you can stay too)

The other day I was thinking of how important it is to be able to talk about sex on a real level with other girls/women. I think it's essential to have that one person/people that you can talk to freely whether you are having sex or not, maybe you're curious, you're considering it soon, "saving" it till your wedding night or celibate. It's nice to have someone you can ask questions whether or not they have answers or just voice out your concerns without judgement. While reading cosmo might answer some questions, I've found that most of the information there is... well fluff.

A bit of background; as close as I am to my mother, sex wasn't just the kind of topic we got into. I think I was about 10 years old when I first got the whole "sex is for grown ups" talk. The next one happened when I got my period, I think I was about 12, the short version was "you are now a big girl, if a boy touches you, you can have a baby". And I was like ugh, this is all so gross and why would I let a boy touch me anyways.

Lot's of things I didn't know. 

1. That this "touching" was sex
2. That I would develop a "desire" to be "touched"
3. That people enjoyed the "touching"

So fast forward to senior secondary school, the rumors and stories were flying around, "bad girls" were letting boys touch them. I really couldn't understand why girls would get into so much trouble just for that in my head they were stupid. Let me be clear though, I was talking to boys and all but it was more of just enjoying attention than anything else.

My first "real talk" about sex was with my uncle's wife, I was about 14 and was on her bridal train. On the night before the wedding my friend and I were in her room and she was packing her honeymoon suitcase. She started showing us all her lingerie etc and I was so embarrassed and flustered, so she told us (my friend and  I) that she and my uncle were going to have sex and enjoy it O_O, showed us her edible panties etc and I was just like woooah. Fun night, she is still my favorite aunt.

Then college came around, I honestly can't remember exactly when but all of a sudden I was interested in boys in a different kind if way, of course by now I knew (what I thought was a lot) about sex and I had a boyfriend and I wanted to talk about it with him all the time (hahaha thank God we were long distance). I had all these questions and I was so lucky to have friends, my ( understanding albeit frustrated) boyfriend and the above aunt to have real talk with.

These conversations shaped a lot of my thoughts on sex and physical intimacy and made me really confident about the choices I made concerning my body. I think it's so important for ladies to have spaces where we can have open conversations like these, without discriminating against the sexually active, virgin, re-virginated (lol this always makes me giggle)/celibate and so on. No matter where you stand on that scale you deserve to have people you can trust enough to ask what you want/need to know

So questions for you; How did you find out about sex, who did you ask? What were your sources of information? What do you wish you had known earlier? Still have doubts and questions?

I know this is kind of a different topic for this blog but I usually write as it comes so...

As always, Love.
Sabirah.

p.s feel free to share and comment, would be nice to get a conversation going.

Thankful.

In the past two months a lot of things have not worked out exactly as planned. I was disappointed a few times and felt a bit helpless. It just seemed like my perfect plan was falling to pieces.

At the same time I tried to remain hopeful and believe that God was working things out in my favor as he promised, because he knows exactly what is best for me.

I just want to write this quick post to say I'm thankful. I'm happier than I've been in a long time and I can attribute that to being surrounded by loving family and friends. I know that even though some things didn't work out exactly as planned, God is always working behind the scenes and making the best decisions for us.

I'm really thankful for the amazing people God puts in my life, I can't say it enough but I am surrounded by the absolute best people here and thousands of miles away and sometimes I forget how much of a blessing that is.

I'm happy and so thankful.

It's November already and I'm praying that things only get better. Remember to focus on the good in your life, even if one thing isn't working out as you wanted, trust that God is there and there are many other things that ARE working out (and usually far more important than what we worry about)


Love always,
Happy Sunday!
Sabirah