31 Day rest - Day 28

Let go of the past.
Ermmm can I get a rain check
I promise to come back to this in no more than 4 weeks. Promise.
I'm just not ready right now.

Thursday Tidbits

Wooohooooo It's Thursday!

1. Boo hoo I'm working all weekend
2. Sigh OK I'll admit, I got a bit bored with the reset challenges, I've been doing them but just not putting my all like before. Could you tell? I will do better.
3. My faith keeps getting tested, something I was really counting on fell through today. I was sad but I'm trying hard to remain faithful.
4. It is HOT!
5. I haven't cooked in a week... I don't know life has been weird lately.
6. I'm really homesick. My dad called me today and I just burst into tears, didn't let him know though.
7. It's really hard to "un-care" for someone. When they call you in the middle of the night about to drunk drive you will still be mad as hell and stay on the phone for however long it takes till they are home safe. Because you care. 
8. I just realized a lot of these sound whiny. I'm not a whiny person. In fact I'm quite the opposite.
9. I'm really thankful for my healthy body. Super thankful.

Have a great weekend everyone!

Love always,

Sabirah.

31 Day reset- Day 27

I've slacked on my challenge tasks :(

I did this one on the day of sha.

It was "Revive your love life"

Ermmm all the things i'd have liked to do were impossible because of the damn atlantic ocean.

So I wrote a love letter. cos I enjoy those :)

Love always,
Sabirah

Music | Efya

The first time I ever heard of Efya was when I stumbled upon this video of her and Dipo freestyling

(I will probably do a post on Dipo's awesomeness when I return to Lagos, He's my friend :) so maybe we can get up close and personal for la bella ). OK back to Efya, so this amazing woman. I have been sleeping on her music! What! If you read this blog and didn't share *side-eye*... I mean all you have to do read my music tagged posts to know she's right up my alley. I mean that blend of Afro-beat, afro-pop, jazz soul is everythiiiing! I love it

I came across this video and got goosebumps! I mean she gave Whitney's I will always love you a brand new twist. Refreshing, original and beautiful. Love her original songs "cigarette" (the first one) and the last one "Nothing"(last one) just as much. I love her powerful soul not-trying-too-hard voice, and the way she infuses Twi (I think) into her songs, she's Ghanaian :)
Enjoy!

And one more for the road

She's amazing!

Love always,
Sabirah

31 day reset - Day 26

Make a new friend

The person should be in your community of support, someone who is like-minded and can hel you achieve your goals.

Funny how this friend "came to me" she keeps saying, "you're amazing and I was drawn to you" which can be creepy but somehow I get it. She is someone I work with, much older than I am but I already see her as a friend, a mentor and someone I will learn a lot from the upcoming months.

She and I have talked about everything from self development (especially that) to relationships to character building all the way down to clean eating. since we started having our DMCs (Deep meaningful conversations) I've been saying a prayer for here everyday, thanking God for bringing her into my life. It was truly like magic.

Here's a Toast to my new friend!

Cheers!

Love always,
Sabirah.

31 day reset -Day 23, 24, 25

I decided to keep Day 23 in my journal, it's quite lengthy and involves information i'm not willing/ready to share.

Day 24 was a day of rest and reflection, also in my journal. been writing quite a bit.

Day 25- Find a community to support your goals - working on it. Detailed updates soon.


Love always!
Sabirah

On Maintaining Relationships.

Over the last 2 days I've emailed 6 friends, Called 2, texted 5, emailed 3 former employers, sent a card to an old colleague, called an aunt and emailed 2 cousins and one professor; This list doesn't include the friends I talk to every couple of days via bbm, phone or text. And I still have people I need to contact

How do I deal?

Over the last year between graduating, going to Italy -> California -> Lagos and now back to California, I feel like I've left a string of relationships all over the place. Relationships I can't seem to properly manage. For example, my college friends who I love so dearly; these people were the ones I cried to when I slaved all week on a paper and still got a B, or when that relationship ended. They were the ones I cooked for every weekend, the ones who stayed with me the thanksgiving I had nowhere to go...

How about my former employers? The ones who gave me an opportunity, and taught me, corrected me and encouraged me, the ones who still agree to be my references? Or cousins, who I have lost touch with but still share about 12% of my DNA. Or friends who may not be so close but I still know I will cry at their weddings and still stay on the phone with them for three hours when they need to cry.

Or my new friends who I've know only a short while but it seems like an eternity... The list is endless, these relationships may not be my closest, as close as before or geographically close but all these people mean something to me and are an important part of my existence.

My question is how do you manage? I know at some point in my life I was on top of it, monthly check-in's for some, bi-weekly check-ins for others and for some just a "hello hope you're well" once every 6 months and a "happy birthday, God bless you" once every year. But somehow I lost it, and I don't know how to get it back. I know that saying "20 friends cannot play together for 20 years", and I understand it. This isn't a matter of "friendship". From casual acquaintances to work networks... These are relationships I don't want to just fizz out, some will I understand, but I want to do my part to make sure some don't.

And I'm drowning.

Help.